Mindfulness for Transformation.

Our Purpose is to Heal {from Jan 2017 “One Moment Shifts”}

Our Purpose is to Heal

This January, as we start the new calendar year and reflect on past progress and goals for the future, it’s essential to remember our purpose. When we have a purpose to our goals, a “why” that inspires our decisions and actions, something feels right and aligned. I refer to this as feeling “in the zone.”

 

I believe that our purpose is to heal. A Course In Miracles is a metaphysical text that teaches us that very idea. ACIM teaches us that a miracle is a shift in perception from fear (the ego, beliefs of lack, anger, worries, self- and other criticism) to love (our essence, unconditional compassion). These miracles happen in an instant and frequently when we are in line with our purpose, which is to heal.

 

We all have a drive to and desire to grow and improve. There are endless distractions of how “important” it is to obtain socially deemed acceptable signs of success and “making it.” When we focus on these we usually end up feeling empty. Even when we “make it” it can all be lost and there’s always a higher rung on the ladder. This is tauntingly dissatisfying and we never feel “enough.”

“The planet does not need more ‘successful’ people. The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers and lovers of all kinds.” – Dalai Lama

 

When we line up our natural desire to grow and improve with our purpose to heal, it starts to become clear what is actually important to our true self. You see, our wounds are our purpose.  More specifically, healing our own wounds is the purpose of our lives. We all have wounds that we carry with us. These wounds may be from childhood and not getting our emotional needs met, experiences of being disrespected or fooled, or from our internal voice of shame. Some philosophies even believe that we carry karma from past lives that need can be “righted” or healed in this life.

 

Our inner wisdom is always shining light on our wounds that need compassion, understanding and healing. For example, when we feel offended that is our signal that there is something within us that needs attention and healing. What we find ourselves avoiding the most is often what needs the most attention. When we feel insecure or defensive, there’s something under the surface that is calling you to heal.
 

I have found that the more I dive into Mindfulness practices and principles, using them to guide my life and stay connected to well-being, the more I transform. I will be clear in that I don’t just sit down and meditate and then magically attain enlightenment. Mindfulness asks us to take a mindset of willingness to witness without judgment, accepting and embracing all that comes our way. That includes the good, the bad, and the ugly. The more I engage in Mindfulness, the more I feel open to experiencing it all and have more and more tolerance to being patient with what feels unpleasant or even scary.

I’ve been able to open the doors of awareness to my authentic self (instead of the role-self I’d been desperately trying to perfect), address my insecurities and my (as Tara Brach refers to it) trance of unworthiness, connect with a sense of abundance and creativity, and feel at peace and ease. I’m not only a happier person, but I am a better friend, teammate, partner, and family member because I can now live a life feeling secure in vulnerability and approach all aspects of life whole-heartedly. It’s not perfect and I’m always learning. It’s a path of progress and showing up when my inner voice calls.

 

Turns out, the only way to heal, and create a life of love and equanimity, is going through the challenges that show up. When we try to avoid our wounds, stuffing down the pain and suffering, we become depressed, anxious, and full of self-doubt. Being with the pain, the discomfort, and the fears is not for the faint of heart. Though when we keep our purpose in mind, and trust that these pains and challenges are guide posts on our path to healing, we can approach life lessons with confidence.

 

My wish for you this year is that you choose a path of healing. I hope that you choose to reconnect and wake up to your strengths and the unique gifts you have to share with the world. As His Holiness The Dalai Lama states, “The planet does not need more ‘successful’ people. The planet desperately needs more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers and lovers of all kinds.” All the world has ever wanted is the real you. You see, your healing and returning to love is a crucial link in healing the world.
 
Happy New Year! Cheers to your life of transformation and healing!

 

Peace and love on your self-discover journey!
The time has come to be your happiest self!
-Kathleen